My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.
James 1:19 NIV
Easier said than done, right? We sometimes speak wrong things at the right time or we say right things at the wrong time and mess things up. This communication which could be a monologue or dialogue could lead to a tense and uncomfortable situation in your relationship.
Words have a magical power. They can bring either the greatest happiness or deepest despair. Words are capable of arousing the strongest emotions and prompting all men’s actions.
SIGMUND FREUD, AUSTRIAN NEUROLOGIST & FOUNDER OF PSYCHOANALYSIS
We sometimes may simply be sharing our thoughts and feelings or expressing ourselves, but if the other person isn’t in a receiving frame of mind or not receptive, then our whole monologue is meaningless. You will find that both of you will either be hurt or angry or sad or indifferent and it will put a spoke in the wheel of your relationship. Sometimes it is wise to refrain from talking when emotions are high or when it isn’t the right moment to say something.
Trust me, I haven’t got it right yet either. I can remember on three occasions where I had spoken when I was emotionally charged and the end result was that I ended up not saying the right thing and hurting John, whom I love. I’m slowly learning to listen more and speak less. The “speak less” part is a work in progress but I shall persevere because at the end of the day I know how much I love John and respect him.
RACHEL
Hurting him has never been my intention.
When is the right time?
You will know in time, be patient and wait. Make sure that you are gentle.
I agree with Rachel’s words. Listening is a fundamental part of any dialogue and speaking less helps one to listen more. It also signifies a gentleness and willingness to be patient and wait to be heard.
JOHN
What do you think about silence being golden? Talk to us.
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Ugh!!! Try telling this to a woman. We know what we need to do, yet it often is easier said than done. And, with years of marriage, comes a certain sense of entitlement of speaking one’s mind. Thanks for sharing Rachel snd John.
I agree with you Cecelia that its easier said than done. 🙂 But, despite your entitlement its always worth being aware and giving it a try for the sake of your relationship. Doesnt matter if you fail. We all have. God bless you.